Thursday, December 18, 2014

When You Can't Refuse the Call

"Couple in Garden - Nuremberg-Nurnberg - Germany" by Adam Jones, Ph.D. - Own work.
Licensed under CC BY-SA 3.0 via Wikimedia Commons -
For those of you who know me well, you know I haven't had many serious romantic relationships. In fact I've had one and I don't even know how serious I'd call it, no disrespect to the gentleman it was with.

It was in high school. We were all growing up, things were different and more difficult then. You all know the story.

For some people, romantic relationships don't occur often. For others, they spark like flashes in a pan, then fizzle out. Rarely do you find people who are truly great at forming intimate bonds with others and it seems like "they've been married for years" or are part of some ongoing jeweler commercial you can't click away from. They're sickly cute and admirable. You can't help but admit you sometimes like their channel and wish you were on the same network schedule.

It's weird when you're in a relationship, when you're in a courting phase, when you're in a hookup phase or when you're in no phase at all- just standing there, alone, watching it all happen to the people around you.

For the majority of my life, I've fallen into the latter.

I don't call it sad or frustrating, just interesting really. It's not sad to be by yourself, nor is it scary. It gives you time to analyze what you want out of you, your life and the person you hope to one day share it with.

Relationships happen when they're meant to. You can't force a connection or chemistry or call it a relationship to compensate for loss of emotion or feeling. Try as you might, it's usually the action of trying too hard that forces you into the "I don't want to try at all" mode, which you so loathe about yourself and these weird relationships.

The weirdest part and the part I have found we have the most difficult time avoiding  is staying out of other peoples romantic relationships and letting them decide for themselves about whether or not it's worth working out.

The pressure of your peers, friends and family, who you realize care about you most, is sometimes the most irritating part of your love life, but you deal with it, because you love them as they love you.

"Ryan Gosling au festival de Cannes, 2011"
Original work by LifeLemons on Wikimedia
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They're the people that know you best and you have to figure if they know anything about you at all, they must be able to see things you can't. Still, more often than not, it's up to us alone to figure it out, despite comments or advisory.

We're usually blinded by what we think could be or is.

Relationships are a fine line, a weird happenstance and sometimes a once-in-a-lifetime love. Sometimes, they're all three at once.

My advice about them is to always think about you before you think about the idea of you with someone else. If you aren't in a place that's good for you, odds are it will be more difficult to find a place that's better with someone.

Take care of  yourself first.

Experiencing new things is something I'm all about. I say go for what you want and if it happens to be another person, great. Figure that out!

If it so happens that this other person is the person you want to be, however, which comes with the chance to figure yourself out and separate yourself from the part that's trying to be with someone outside of your undecided conscience, do that.

If you aren't with it yourself, it's going to be so much harder to be with anyone else.

No one is perfect and no relationship is as sublime as it sometimes is in the movies. Ryan Gosling is Eva Mendes' baby-daddy, need I remind you.

Sigh.

Anyway-

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Rent the Runway Inspires Forget-Me-Not NYE

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New Year's Eve is already a dreamy time of year, with the promise of new experiences and a new you to make for a spectacular new year of life. It seems, for some reason, most people like to wait until this special time of the holiday season to make resolutions for themselves.

(Can you guess what's coming next?)

I'm telling you now it's never too early to start resolving your bad relationship history with New Year's Eve fashion, nor is it time for you to put off doing something out of the ordinary or new. Challenge and surprise yourself! You never should have to wait for "final countdown," because you never really know when you're starting this "countdown" in life, if you catch my drift.

Good news for us, we're about to look a whole lot hotter this New Year while experiencing some very necessary fun with Rent the Runway. Right now, Rent the Runway gives customers the chance to use the promo code HAPPY2015 to receive 20% off your order's subtotal of $50 or more. Huge steal, trust me.

You won't believe what fabulous designers you'll come across. There is still time to rent too. Whether you're just dressing for you, you and your significant other, a work bash, or party of strangers and friends, Rent the Runway has a mighty selection of designers ranging from Carolina Herrera to Pink Tartin to Vivienne Westwood Red Label and more to choose from for whatever event you have going on.

Rent the Runway has a fair price range too and honest user commentary section, so you can tell who's rented the dress, what body type they have and how it might look on you if you follow a similar shape. You won't just see this fashion on models. You'll see it on renters who are just like you and me: bold and beautiful holiday buyers!

(Or should I say renters?)

Try something new before you ring in the New Year. I dare you! Look dazzling on New Year's Eve with Rent the Runway.

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You'll feel extra sleek dancing to Hozier's "Take Me to Church" or Bruno Mars & Mark Ronson's "Uptown Funk" in this fashion. I don't know about you, but dreaming on this attire is inspiring me to have a "Gatsby"-esque night to remember already.

Forgive me for fantasizing, but seriously who doesn't like picturing a 1974 Redford in a 2013 "The Great Gatsby"? You can't tell me it's just me.

(Or maybe you can, who's to say...)

Let's be straight folks, what better time than New Year's Eve to say "why not" to great fashion and amazing memories? There's always a few stars in the sky among a crystal moon and pleasant hopes on New Year's Eve.

There's something about the holiday that makes people forget their mistakes and the uncertainty of the future; it makes us feel effervescent and rejuvenated. It's a time of year we all truly aspire to live in the moment, so make it one to remember and wear something you'll never forget.

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Hold on to Me As We Go

Image for Miss Trend She, Copyright
www.misstrendshe.com
On this day, sometime around 11: 30 a.m., the end of final exam week at last revealed itself to me.

I could not feel more privileged or resolved.

Immediately after completing my last final, I sat in the Communication Arts Center at my university, waiting to speak with the editor in chief of the publication I work for about how the semester went for us.

I waited for an hour before chatting with her, not impatiently, as I sat there, just relieved. My body had finally begun to wind down from the undesirable pressure final exams had brought on it.

Like most college students, I imagine, this feeling will resonate and will continue to do so throughout the week, maybe even the end of the month. If so, I'm sorry, just remember you'll get through them. This is your education.

Maybe it's easy for me to say now that I'm done or because my specific program has been manageable for my abilities and progressions, but I truly believe a final examination is not the sole determining factor of your intelligence or work ethic. You must realize how much you do and give yourself credit for all those things. They make you wonderful and high-flying.

The future is not guaranteed, as I have told you many a time, yet we still must think as if there will be a future, especially now for our academic lives and careers. It gives us purpose.

My specific purpose today was completing a French written exam and a web & digital media multiple-choice exam. I already know my score from the web & digital media final, but will not know my French score until sometime late this week or early next, I assume.

I don't mind waiting. I haven't a care in the world. In fact, I have a "Scott Pilgrim" comic book my friend lent me that I intend to read over break, a yoga mat & Tracy Anderson workout DVD and bag of pretzels waiting for me at my parent's house. (My mother texted me twice now to reassure me about this bag of pretzels- you have to love that!)

The drive back to my parent's house will consume approximately an hour and a half of my time if the weather is kind and my dad stays on target. As said, I don't mind waiting (or stopping for dinner).


I have my roommates here, not currently in the same room with me now, but scattered throughout our apartment we still have yet to make a home. We are busy ladies. We are constantly moving and I don't think it's sad to say we haven't made our apartment a home.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Revealing Thyself in Writing is a "Shy" Easier

Julia Rose, Image Copyright Miss Trend She
for www.misstrendshe.com
Look at the YouTube commentary section for example and begin to understand that people must find it easier and less intimidating to write what they really feel and say what they mean to say in writing rather than face-to-face.

It's a lot easier to call someone fat or ugly or annoying in a YouTube comment rather than telling someone that in person.

Would you even say something like that in person?

I certainly hope not. I am no heroine, maybe I am and don't know it yet, but for what I am about to say, I am not, nor am I so noble.

I simply do not comment nasty things on YouTube videos, because I would not want others to do the same to me. I wouldn't want others to comment nastily about my own creative work or opinions, though I realize writing means opening yourself to vulnerability and I am okay with that.

I have always been a shy girl. If you don't know this about me, maybe I've been putting on a good charade or maybe you just haven't been paying attention. I understand either way. We see what we want to see in others.

It takes a lot for me to open up to people. It's something you have to earn from me, not because I'm uptight or unreasonable, but simply out of my natural inclination to be reserved. I take a while to warm up to people and new experiences.

I'm trying to get better at that.

In writing, there is no immediate response, so I feel encouraged to spew my brain to you, so to speak, in a blog post rather than through a face-to-face revelation. I feel a lot less awkward about who I am, like I'm able to stand my ground better.

It's a lot less discouraging.

I think I've become better at it in recent years, but you never really lose the part of yourself that's been bred, the part of yourself that is eternally elementary, that feels she should never be too boastful or outgoing or overly telling about who she is.

Writing is this weird therapy session that gives back to me.

When you're a person whose energy is filled by one-on-one conversations with a stranger or friend, you must realize it takes little to be "filled up." The crème de la crème of your beautiful double-stuffed Oreo sandwich only takes one cookie.

Do they make double stuffed in birthday cake flavor yet? Can we please make that happen if not? Please? Anyway...

She is the part of you that wants to maintain mystery and it's good, but also weird and not fully understandable to others that need a whole lot more to be "full." Some might call her a tortured artist or an idiot or rude or snobby because they don't understand. I wouldn't hope to begin to compare myself to any of these either misguided stereotypes.

That's what I like about writing, because it challenges me to expose myself to vulnerability. The things you can't so easily say in person are easily said in a post or article.

I will always be the girl who wants world peace and eternal kindness. I don't need drama. Maybe that makes me unrealistic, maybe it makes me sensitive. I don't really know.

We're all sort of subjective to each other, right? Stop me if I'm wrong...

[Pause for beat.]

The part of myself that has always been reserved will not go away. It will be hidden better at some times and it will be blatantly obvious at others. If I find you physically attractive, intellectually intimidating, insanely talented or just plain new, you will suffer from this phenomenon more and I apologize.

If I find you weirdly comfortable or inherently safe, you're luckier. I'm more likely to open up to you. This is how shy people work.

It's how I work at least.

The things we do, shy or not, don't make sense on a given day and if we try to make too much sense of them we're just wasting time. We are who we are. We don't change at our cores, but sometimes we can be swayed, in moments, pieces of time or days of our lives.

[Insert soap opera theme here.]

Some say it takes a person, a moment or what some may call "magic."

I say, it takes you to change you and the things you do. It takes you to challenge yourself to be better or different or less or more of who you want to be. You can be whoever you want to in this life. Don't forget that or let someone tell you otherwise.

If you like who you are, don't consider changing. If the next day you want to, think about that some more. If you aspire to change you, make sure it's for the better.

Explore many paths in life and always challenge yourself to say or do something new. You never know what may come of it.


Saturday, December 13, 2014

Finishing up with Sweet Goodbyes

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I hope you aren't too distracted this weekend, but manage to have some sort of fun while enjoying your final days at university with your friends. Whether you're just leaving for winter break or are leaving for good, it's important to tell the people you care that you do.

Unfortunately, for most of us, it's also important we finish up our semester projects, papers and exams. What a relieving feeling it'll be when it's over though, don't you think?

There will be moments of sweat pants, ponytail holders and over-caffeinated stomachs, but you'll get through. You've already made it this far.

Good luck with your final exam periods and to a portion of you, best wishes as you venture into the world beyond university.

Keep trendy (& only change for the better),
Julia Rose

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Thaingtham Talks Modeling for Nasty Gal & 'Top Chef' Dreams

Image courtesy of Nida Thaingtham

Nida Thaingtham has been modeling for eight years. She took about one or two years off somewhere in between and said she's back into it now.

"If I feel overworked I'll deny a job or two just to take a break," Thaingtham said. "It's hard doing monotonous website modeling sometimes because you are just going through clothes and there really isn't a creative process to it."

Thaingtham's favorite part about modeling is the fantasy of it all. She recalled first signing with her agency as an uncertain experience.

"I went to Passport Macy's and had no idea what I was doing," she said. "They lined the models up along the hallway and then basically made you catwalk in front of everyone, then told you right then and there in front of everyone if you were to stay or not. It was so intimidating. It still is."

Thaingtham finds she is under pressure in the industry. Though she does not try to compare herself to other models, she said it's hard not to.

"It's really hard not to put pressure on yourself about being skinnier or taller or about your skin and makeup," Thaingtham said. "It's just a big judgment thing and it was really hard to handle on my own when I was younger. Now I'm in such a different mindset and I don't take it personally if I don't get picked."

"I'm confident in myself and know when to ease up," she said.

Thaingtham has modeled for NastyGal.com, a company founded by Sophia Amoruso in 2006. Since it's birth, Nasty Gal has become wildly successful. Amoruso has moved from selling vintage designer clothing on eBay to being CEO of her own popular company.

Thaingtham described Amoruso as having started from the bottom up. She said her experience modeling for Nasty Gal was surreal.

Image Courtesy of Nida Thaingtham
"I remember changing through vintage clothes in her aunt's bathroom," Thaingtham said.

Thaingtham described vintage YSL and other clothes lain around the living room.

"We would shoot in front of her garage door," she said. "We had all these signature poses and would walk around the suburban neighborhood shooting editorial stuff. We probably looked crazy to all the normies that lived there who didn't get it."

Thaingtham credits Amoruso for teaching her everything she knows about angles, posing, vintage, eras and paying attention to small details.

"I am a machine at modeling e-commerce now," she said. "But it was so much more, because Sophia influenced my style, views and confidence. I was still in high school and was a little lost after just moving to suburbia from culture-sealed New Orleans."

Thaingtham said they would take breaks at Starbucks, Kinders or Subway. She recalled watching "Gossip Girl" and fantasizing with Sophia about being featured in "Nylon" magazine.

"And then that happened," Thaingtham said. "Now she owns a copy worth millions. I used to be embarrassed to deposit checks from Nasty Gal, because the tellers only thought the worst, but now there aren't too many who don't recognize the name."

Thaingtham is also influenced by model Abbey Lee.

"I think she is so bad ass," Thaingtham said. "Her look in general makes your jaw drop, but then she has this incredible style and bohemian swagger that is unlike anyone else. I think she left modeling to go tour around with her boyfriend at the height of her career and I really love that about her."

"She makes her own decisions in life and c'est la vie," she said.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

'Lucky' Fashion Assistant Encourages Industry Hopefuls to Get Experience

Sylvia Chun, Fashion Assistant at "Lucky" magazine
Image Courtesy of Sylvia Chun
While the idea of working a "dream" entry-level position right out of college may seem appealing for a portion of college graduates, Sylvia Chun, Fashion Assistant at "Lucky" magazine said that it's actually quite important for post-grads to get their feet wet before getting deeper into the water, working those "dream" jobs.

"There's nothing wrong with that dream and passion, but the more you learn and the more experience you get the better prepared you are," Chun said. "Stay within boundaries, this is a bit difficult to explain, but it's something you will learn as you gain experience."

Chun's current resume title is as the Assistant to the Executive Fashion Director at "Lucky" magazine Alexis Bryan Morgan, and Fashion Director Anne Keane. Her list of duties are never the same at "Lucky" which she said is a great part of her job.

"My days can consist of scheduling market appointments for the fashion team to attend, handle expenses, assist in basically anything that help is needed for," Chun said.

Chun is in charge of handling ticket requests and scheduling shows and appointments for the team, mostly for Alexis and Anne, during what she referred to as fashion "month."

"After all of the shows are completed, I am in charge of putting a trend report together that is used as inspiration for upcoming stories," Chun said. "I research and look for the trends and then I am able to sit down with the directors to see which ones truly stand out. The report is a collaborative effort between the fashion and accessories teams and we all put our ideas together."

Chun said the best part about her job is the atmosphere.

"The industry has a connotation for being catty," Chun said. "Yes, some places will be like that, but I've been blessed with the opportunity to work for and with amazingly talented and warmhearted people."

Chun said women hoping to break into the publishing industry should get as much experience as they can while in school.

"Every internship or activity I had before landing this job prepared me so much," she said.

Screenshot Capture of UrbanOutfitters.com
Courtesy of Urban Outfitters
Chun studied fashion merchandising in college and said her experiences outside the classroom
benefited her most.

"I was editor-in-chief of my university's fashion publication my senior year in college but was always involved the years before that," Chun said. "During my summer and winter breaks, I would intern. I assisted stylists on photoshoots, worked at Urban Outfitters and immersed myself in more outside activities."

Chun said these experiences made her responsible as she learned time-management and how to work with, listen to and understand others. Chun said that college students entering the workforce for the first time are likely to realize this same thing about the skills they have picked up outside their academic environments.

"You take things away from each experience and you're able to apply it to the next one," she said. "You really just have to believe in yourself and if one opportunity doesn't work out, don't let that wave knock you down because you get back up and walk into the water again."

When asked about whether or not she has a 10-year plan in mind, Chun said she's still figuring out what her goal is.