When you're feeling sad about "how old" you are, it's important to remember that age is an opportunity, not a right. I think we often forget that our time on this planet is limited. In the grand scheme of all existence, our individual lives equate for microscopic values, but, rest assured, we are valuable, and we need to treat our time this way.
I am constantly reminded of this each time I wake up from a low blood sugar in the middle of the night. I can't help but think - What if I hadn't woken up? What if I would have kept on sleeping? Hypoglycemia can have dangerous consequences if left untreated.
Of course, we can't wonder everyday - What If? - because, then, we wouldn't really be living. It's important to focus on the moment, to live in the present, and appreciate what's right in front of you. The past is the past, and we are not promised a future. Indeed, it's easier said than done, but it can be done, and that's what we must remind ourselves. Living presently is a choice.
I recently had a conversation about this with some co-workers. Being happy is also a choice. Taking the time to be introspective can change your perspective on life, or of yourself. Energy spent on negativity is energy wasted. Giving into stress is a chore, and we should embrace the freedom of experiencing the pleasure of happiness.
Being happy is being free. Choosing happiness is choosing who you will become, and so is choosing negativity. To me, the choice seems simple. I choose to be happy. It's not always an easy choice, but it's the most worthy.
Choosing happiness is like choosing to be in love. It feels a lot better to be accompanied by the feeling, rather than living without it. Your emotional well being is valuable in this life. Consider it deeply.
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|Jazmin Medrano; Photograph by Carina Adam|
Medrano lives life for the moment. Just a short time ago she found herself in Rome, with a helmet on her head, on her way to a Gelateria where she stuffed someone's face with gelato.
"Attachment to expectation is confining," Medrano said. "Unfettered Living is essentially about being free of anything that limits us to being our true self. It's a brand - a movement that people can feel a part of, or relate to."
Medrano created Unfettered Living at a time in her life where she felt more alive than ever before.
"I had just left the company that I did some life coach training with, for whom I also became a trainer," she said. " After that, I decided to come more into my truth, something that was more in alignment to who I am."
At first, Medrano aspired to create a blog. As she progressed, Medrano's blog became more of a hub for coaching and training, rather than a place to express random thoughts.
She debated what to name it, and after much deliberation, came up with Unfettered Living.
"I was debating whether I should name it something like Jazmin Medrano Coaching," she said. "Somehow, I didn't resonate with that. It didn't jive with me."
In the moments she began to build her brand, she realized it was more than that.
"It's a vision; it's a movement that's essentially about living a life free of bullshit," Medrano said. "Living a life where we are in our truth, where we're free... where there is no external or internal thing that will get in the way of us living our truth."
Sunday, April 17, 2016
Topshop is one of my favorite places to get sustainable, quality fashion. With summer right around the corner, I can't help but think of sitting by the beach with friends, catching some rays, and wearing hot, new summer clothes.
These are my top picks from Topshop that I'm looking forward to adding to my summer wardrobe this year. They're perfect for vacations, road trips, weekend getaways, or, simply, for chilling pool-side:
1. Ladder Long Line Bikini Top, Black - $28
I love the cut of this bikini top, and you can never go wrong with black. It's so easy to find bottoms to match a black swimsuit top, and this design provides support for waves that might try to mess with your look, if you know what I mean.
This new swimsuit top will coordinate perfectly with a pair of boy-short style black swim-trunks that I hardly used last year. This summer, I intend to make more use of my swimsuits. I'm so excited to drive down the coast to the beach. A good road trip, picnic by the beach, and New Jersey tan are just some of the things that are on my must-do list.
2. Scallop Trim Kaftran, Black - $15
A swimsuit cover up that appears like it could double as a dress is a must in my book. Cover ups are the best complement to a swimsuit. They're also the perfect transition pieces from daytime swimming to nighttime bonfires with friends.
Tuesday, April 12, 2016
I used to wonder what the best thing I would ever do would be - the best act, the best piece of writing, the best relationship, etc. I used to wonder about when I would get married, or, what job I would have when I graduated from college. I wondered about where I would live...
Looking at these questions now, and evaluating where my life is, I understand that these reflections are a bit silly - quite natural, but silly. Where I will be in a few years is unpredictable. I can plan. I can predict. We all can do these things, but wondering about it is a form of day dreaming I know longer choose to partake in.
I set goals. There is a complete distinction between daydreaming and goal-setting that defines a person's priorities. I may still daydream about Bradley Cooper, of course, but I'm 22-years-old, so I make no apologies about that.
Everybody needs a break from their work mind over the lunch hour, right?
Wondering about these things wasn't just a result of a Curious George sort of complex, but more of a need to better myself. There is nothing wrong with wanting to grow, learn, and develop more compassion for life, and the people in it, but, growing up, feeling a need to be perfect, pressured me with a form of nonacceptance I no longer felt comfortable with.
The weight of the world can come from your core, and it's funny to have realized this so early on - that my pressure point was coming from me. The best act I ever committed already happened, and it will happen again, because the next time it does, I will be in a new stage of life, as a new form of myself, looking at what's happening to me in a completely new way.
Monday, April 11, 2016
When you live alone, you don't become your own parent. You become your own caretaker, but you do not replace the role of your parent, who is still around to provide love and advice, perhaps now just from a distance. Even though you may forget, do not shy away from the importance of maintaining close ties. Pick up the phone, have a FaceTime session - whatever it is. Whenever you feel like you need a hug from mom, she'll be on the other end of the line. I should know. (Thanks, Mom.)
In actuality, they probably did tell you things to prepare yourself for this point in your life - for living alone, paying your own bills, buying your own groceries, etc. They probably said things like, "youth is wasted on the young," or, "stay young as long as you can."
While I'd like to believe age is just a number, there are inevitable distinctions between the younger years compared to adulthood. I believe, when they said age was just a number, they were talking about your soul.
Preparing yourself for how you'll feel in the future is difficult. You can't really prepare for how you'll feel, because it's very unexpected, in most ways. You can learn, grow, and experience, but, when you look at it all, you'll realize every day is new again, with new opportunities to develop your overall wellness.